Guilt vs Shame
How to Distinguishing Shame from Guilt?
You must’ve heard and used these two words, guilt and shame, countless time before. Those are two common words that people tend to be mistaken about, one from each other. Even until now, there are several opinions on the true meaning of them and how to use them correctly. So what is guilt, what is shame, and how to distinguishing shame from guilt?
People often understand guilt as a feeling gotten after having done something wrong; relating to one’s awareness of the possibility of causing trouble or having hurt someone else, whether it’s real or imagined. It’s the feeling you’d get after realizing “I did some something wrong,” or “I’ve hurt them.” It makes one feeling uneasy, knowing he/she is responsible for the trouble or injury.
On the other hand, shame is a feeling gotten after failing to meet some standards made by others or oneself; relating to one’s awareness of the possibility of being different from others or expectations. It’s the feeling you’d get after realizing “I’m wrong,” or “I’m different.” It reflects the way one feels about himself/herself, and shows one’s self-esteem and self-worth.
And how to distinguishing shame from guilt? The easy way is to noticing whether you feel bad because you’ve hurt someone else, or because your self-image is hurt. One event can cause both guilt and shame; usually the guilt comes first, and when you do nothing about it, then shame will come along. Guilt’ll be over after correction’s made, while shame’ll last longer because it’s related to what’s perceived ideal.http://www.shamedoc.net/guilt-vs-shame/http://www.shamedoc.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/guilt-e1429533809119.jpghttp://www.shamedoc.net/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/guilt-e1429533809119-300x300.jpgLife Without ShameGuilt,shame